In there should be absolutely no guilt attached to female sexual desire or agency. Accessibility links Skip to article Skip to navigation. Rather than querying that tradition we just continue to allow young women to expect their partners to cause them pain. You do only get one first time. When rapper Chris Brown announced that he lost his virginity at the age of eight, there was shock, but the reaction was split between shock and amusement, where as if a female singer had said the same thing she would have universally been seen as a victim of abuse. Rebecca Reid says they need to stop giving virginity so much importance Losing your virginity doesn't have to be perfect. Ditch the regret Women are twice as likely to regret how they had sex for the first time than men are.