Lack of communication is a common challenge with moms and daughters. Instead of arguing about something so small, Mintle put the hat on and moved on. Moms feel threatened and rejected that their daughters are making different decisions. This applies to mother and daughter relationships, too, she said. Asserting yourself with your mother or daughter can spill over into other relationships. Both are clearly problematic. Doing so inevitably leaves relationships stuck. It can be challenging for daughters to build their own identities. Think of it as a dance, she said.