A survey of women, conducted by the University of Chicago, revealed that 0. However, most parents do not think they contributed to their son or daughter's homosexual preferences. More conservative studies put the male gay population at 2 to 6 percent. Most of the available information confirms that for a woman who is a lesbian, the most difficult personal task she faces is admitting that she is gay to herself and then her family—particularly her mother. Mothers should be aware that most lesbian daughters deeply want to maintain a close tie with them, Carson maintains. Woman to Woman The number of women who are self-ascribed lesbians is small in comparison to the total number of gay men. Find tips on how to overcome the challenges that can arise when a daughter admits to her mother that she is a lesbian.