Letourneau was reported to have "a loveless marriage" and was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. We will guilt and shame him to keep a stiff upper lip so he can "get on with it. Men are more likely to be serial pedophiles; women seek that "deep spiritual oneness" that Letourneau says she found. If noting else in this post made sense I hope that the folllowing will. Then there is the ultimate double standard: The wink wink, nudge nudge, of boys getting their sexual initiation from grown women. Little did they know that Joe was being sexually abused by his mother. We give male victims a message every day of their lives that they risk much by complaining. Males are seen to get power from obtaining or taking sex, women from withholding sex.