He proceeded to sabotage the plan, and I realized my mistake. Please seek the support of local resources as needed. Are you concerned that your child may physically hurt you or others? My patience already thin, I drove around to the door and invited him to go in and place his order while I waited. Next, we talked about giving consequences effectively. Would you like to learn about how to use consequences more effectively? I held up my hand, but stilled it in the air and managed to keep my cool. If he refuses to leave the room and continues to verbally abuse us, my mother who lives with us and I ignore him or leave the room.