So they feel less satisfied with their partners' bodies, with their own bodies, with their own performance. So right there, something to talk to boys about is, "It's not going to be doing any favors once you get into the actual bedroom. On learning that gay boys are better at communicating consent than straight boys. Amazon Independent Booksellers. One interviewee confided that he preferred to partner with girls for school projects because, "It was OK to say you didn't know what you were doing with a girl, and you couldn't do that with a guy. That they had gay friends, that they weren't homophobic, but they use that word all the time. But I think that word — that slur for gay — is what kind of draws the lines of the "man" box for boys.