We decided to figure out the day-to-day tasks the other absolutely hates to do and then swap them. Each long-term marriage has its own secret to success, and hearing tips from others may inspire you to find your own. During an argument, you eventually reach a point where the best thing is just to walk away and cool off. Then use that feeling to cultivate appreciation, respect, and emotional autonomy while weeding out disdain and contempt. Value their passions, goals, interests, and needs and decide you will just absolutely support them. Don't take life too seriously; challenges seem much more manageable when you have a partner to laugh with. Every couple is different, and what worked for your great-grandparents or your BFF and her husband may be the complete opposite of what helps you and your significant other.