I, too, didn't get a lot of spoken advice from my grandma. Which was no surprise to me. Sometimes we can't do much about the family of the person we love or what influences they may have on our future spouses life, but it's always best to go into things with eyes wide open. By Monica Gabriel Marshall. My heart warmed at the thought of all the amazing women out there who inspire without having to say anything at all. Second, to be a parent means complete sacrifice, giving everything, and not asking anything in return. His mom also counseled him in the ways of gentlemanly behavior. She said that as my father was dying and withered by chemotherapy, that he was more handsome to my mom then he had ever been before. Zach explains: "I always saw my mom uphold a standard of how she was to be treated.