In order for this to happen, I needed to ensure that when my man was getting his birthday gift, neither of us would be receiving any surprises. Which is how I found myself in a sex shop after a jug of Pimms purchasing anal beads. For many women, anal is the last sexual frontier. When I put myself into his hands, physically and emotionally, it became a much more pleasurable experience. Photo: iStock Source:Whimn. I can only speak for myself, but an act like this requires a lot of trust. Later that night, alone on my bed, under recommendation from a girlfriend, I experimented with my new toy.