She was no longer looking for someone to take care of her — she was doing a fine job already — but someone to love and be loved by. Are you over 50 and using dating apps? After a year of using the app, she deleted it. She frequently matched with men 10 to 15 years younger than her because, she said, she was able to "hold a conversation. She realized she didn't have to feel frustrated so often if she just leaned into it. This is a new frontier for older women like my mom. She's over 55, has been married, had kids, owns a home, and has been providing for herself for years. What she was searching for was innocent enough: someone who she can have fun with, travel with, and ultimately be in a long-term relationship with.